True Beauty

If I Were A Boy

So I've been thinking a lot, a little too much perhaps - what it is like to be a boy/man. Well this sort of stems from a love triangle I've found myself entangled in. It's a long story, but here's a synopsis. Boy with girlfriend thinks I'm the girl for him but I know I shouldn't even entertain the idea. And of course girlfriend is absolutely in love with guy and thinks he's the one. Oh boy - we'll leave it at that.

I recently went to an event with a friend, who was floored by the group of attractive men present. I agreed but looked around and concluded that there were twice as many attractive girls there as well. It really got me thinking - How does a guy choose one? I don't know how they do. There are so many beautiful girls out there. Let me clarify, this is in terms of physical appearance. The ratio of male to female in the world is surprisingly is 1.1 to 1. I would have predicted it to be much higher. As girls we're more inclined to fall for a guy and love him till the forever after but guys are easily distracted. I'm not necessarily a Beyonce fan but it's ironic I heard her song "If I Were A Boy" sometime this week. Couldn't help but chuckle at the irony. Anyways pretty good lyrics I must say.

Ladies we have so much competition out there, that is if you're competing based on physical traits. I'm mean if we were comparing who had biggest jugs - I would probably come in last place. But Proverbs 31:30 says:

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman (man) who fears the Lord is to be praised."

On my way to class this week, I had a guy on his phone stop his conversation mid-sentence to tell me I was beautiful. (I secretly wanted to ask, why he thought I was beautiful, but then realize he'll think I'm this 'beautiful' crazy chic) Instead, I appreciated the comment and said thank you but once again the analytical part of me started to think. Who are we to dictate what "beauty" is? Beauty is nothing but a social construct used to make ourselves feel better about our position/status/association to things in the world. The truth is, looks does NOT matter the most. As cliche, as this sounds it's really about what's on the inside. And the only person that can make us beautiful on the inside is God. You want a woman/man who is not solely interested in your outside beauty but your character. The truth is we're all going to get old. I'm not saying aging is ugly, it's a very beautiful thing actually. What I am saying is our standard of beauty changes often.

This post speaks volume to me as well. I gravitate toward so called "pretty boys." A friend half-way jokingly said to me...if I were a boy, I would be a pimp. It's a sad truth. Now if I were a boy...I would ask God to direct my footsteps and help me to see beyond physical beauty but actively seek out girls with genuine characters. But I'm a girl and my prayer is that I should not be influenced by the compliments showered on me by guys but actively seek out guys that look far beyond my physical traits.

With Love,